February fourteenth. The “official” day of love. Of romance & adventure. Of spending way too much money of one single person for one day out of the year. When those who are in relationships adore each other & those single resent everything.
The celebration of Valentine’s Day started out as a pure idea. A day not for extravagant gifts, but for celebrating unconditional love. Love not to be worn around your neck encrusted with diamonds, but to flow through your veins. Courtly love has nothing to do with Valentine’s Day. We have taken a beautiful idea – giving of oneself for another – and created false romance, unrealistic expectations, and more often than not arguments laced with disappointment and heartbreak.
Valentine’s Day should not be about proving your affections. Men have been pressured to out-do themselves year after year, to make his girlfriend look better than all of her friends by spending more money, sending giant bouquets of flowers to her workplace, along with terrible chocolates no one should ever consume but do anyway.
Express love to everyone you encounter, not just the one in your life you happen to kiss. Take the time to be kind and generous. Make Valentine’s Day about loving others, not to be greedy about yourself. Tell your friends that you love them, call your mother, send an e-mail to your adorable grandfather in Oklahoma.
I love you. Whoever this may be. Just as Christ loves me, I love you. You were created for a specific purpose, you know that? You may not know what it is just yet. I sure know I haven’t discovered what I’m to do with myself, but I know there will come a time when the mist thins and a piece of the puzzle is revealed. Today is not about courtly love, but about agape love.
Love each other, appreciate the wonders in your life, the blessings.
“Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get – only with what you are expecting to give – which is everything.” Katharine Hepburn